To Look or Not to Look

I have a standing desk in my office that holds my laptop. I frequently think better (or stay awake after lunch) when I can pace or stand. The desk is directly in front of a floor to ceiling window that overlooks the front of our church. Others may see it as a view of pavement and parking spaces, I see it as a view of entry to all that happens on our campus. There lots of opportunities to pray and think of our people (and be distracted, quite honestly).

Anyway, this morning I was standing at my laptop, enjoying the brief sunlight we'll have today. With my window blinds completely raised, I quickly realized that I wasn't the only one with a view. People coming in could see me clearly.

And they didn't know what to do.

People who know who I am, but who don't know me well, made eye contact, then quickly looked away, perhaps feeling they had just looked into a private office they weren't supposed to see. They felt uncomfortable. They nervously shifted their glance and moved ahead quickly to the front doors of the building.

People who are my good friends have literally thrown themselves at the glass, unconcerned about whether or not they are invading my space. They've laughed like annoying little kids when I've jumped at all. Then we share a smile, while they point and I shake my head. Friends.

Reminds me of the importance of recognizing relational space. Vulnerability should be chosen carefully. It must be safe for everyone. There are things I tell my wife, I wouldn't tell anyone else. There are things I tell my comrades, I don't tell acquaintances or casual friends.

It's what our Turning Point groups are all about. They start up again on May 13. If you're a GCCer, check it out here.

It's what we've learned some important lessons about in Starting Point and other "small" groups.

Just because I feel better being vulnerable, doesn't mean everyone else is better off because of it. Know when to close the blinds.