If you're married and you attended the first week of our new series at Granger Community Church this weekend, you know about the 30-Day Sex Challenge. If you picked up the book (over 500 copies were sold), you know a little more about the challenge.
Personal conversations, Facebook, and Twitter-world were marked with a variety of thoughts about the challenge. Mark Beeson announced during weekend services that he and Sheila were taking the challenge, doing the 30-days, something like that. Others commented that they were "working on the challenge - the reading part, that is." I overheard one man say that his wife asked him to do the reading and give her the summary. I don't know if she'll make a similar request of the sex part or not: "just give me the summary."
I've heard a female or two suggest that the whole challenge must be a "man's idea." I silently agreed, but defended the challenge as "mutual."
The temptation for every married man will be to declare "day one" of every-day sex as soon as possible. The likely temptation for many women will be to read the book first, looking for any loopholes to the challenge that's become very personal.
Here are some considerations as you embark on week one of the challenge:
- Read the Wirth's (they authored the book) story in part one (pages 1-36), including a sneak peek at the book's 4-part challenge (spiritual, emotional, sexual, and physical). This will give you context for this intimate journey of rekindling and enhancing your marriage relationship, not merely a 30-day check-off of sexual obligation.
- Review the Granger Notes from the weekend message. Specifically, use the "Questions to Ponder this Week" on the back page of the notes. Identify at least two to three questions to discuss with each other. They're all great questions, but I personally recommend question #3, #4, #6 and #10.
- Spend a little time this week remembering what drew you to each other in the dating season of your relationship. Remember the butterflies in your stomach, the all-day consuming thoughts of seeing each other again, the little, special things you did for each other to say "I'm thinking of you" and "I think you're special." Practice a couple of those things this week. Open the car door for her again. Cook his favorite meal - with candlelight. Send a card - in the mail. Call on the phone and ask her out - for a real date that you actually plan.
It's week one. Seven days. Don't put it off. The reading, I mean. And make time to talk about it. What you read, of course. And, really, it is a 30-day sex challenge. Don't put if off. Yeah, I mean the sex. Just do it.
